With so many moving pieces in my life, I like to think of myself like the hub of a bicycle wheel, steadily present at the center of all the spokes as I roll forward, taking everyone and everything in my life with me as effortlessly as possible. Without some kind of central organizing image, it might just feel like chaos, which sometimes it does, but then I remember it’s just time to roll with a little bit of crazy!
How I pay attention to the spokes of the wheel makes all the difference in the world, for without them I’d lose connection to the wheel itself that propels me forward. Below are a few of the spokes on my wheel that make my world go round year by year, month by month, week by week, day by day, breath by blessed breath.
Creative Time with Family
My boys are 24, 18, 16 and 10, and along with my husband, that’s a lot of guys to contend with! They appreciate how I’ve become more feminine in the past few years, but the tomboy in me is still alive and well, which makes it easy for us to play hard together. Often we’ll meet at the gym for a workout and dinner. Exercise is the drug of choice in our family, and we inspire one another to push the edge of physical possibility and to take care of our God given temples.
Spending one-on-one time with my boys is super important to me, and we make that happen however we can. It can be something as simple as a late night trip to the grocery story to stock an empty fridge, laughing and sharing stories as we go down the aisles. We’re all foodies so sometimes we watch food shows together, but it’s the conversations flying around the family room about skateboard ramps, movies, life in college, or days gone by that fill me with so much joy I could burst.
I start each day with a meditation by my backyard fountain, then either I’m off for strength training at the gym, a long power walk or a bike ride. I love getting a manicure to help feel refreshed every two weeks and a soothing pedicure makes me feel like a million bucks. I have favorite spas around the world, and it’s on my list to find a wonderful one in my backyard.
All these actions are vital to my sense of well-being and aliveness, but it’s the deep self care that I value most, which is easy to skip over in our fast-paced world. I acknowledge what I’ve accomplished during the day, which gives me the motivation to show up fully the next day. And when I’m feeling a little lackluster I remind myself how far I’ve come in this lifetime and to appreciate everyone who has supported me.
As a recovering perfectionist, I don’t even use the word “perfect” anymore. I used to be focused on the perfect home, family, vacation or relationship. I’m grateful for all I’ve walked through that I now know that I am enough and that how I live my life is my choice. My life is all mine by design and I love it!
I think I was born to travel; to experience beautiful and unexpected sights, sounds, tastes, people, colors and textures. When I travel something in me slows down and makes it easier to let go of the “shoulds” and appreciate the simple blessing of the present movement. Talk about rejuvenation!
And when I’m immersed in a new locale, some of my most inspired design or product ideas come into being. The smell of a flower that wants to be turned into a bottled scent, a fabric that is perfect for a home I’m working on, or a new friend who plants the seed for a future event to support a cause.
I appreciate reads that help me see things in a new light. Currently I’m reading The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. It’s a relatively fast read and chock full of “a-ha!” one liners. With all the spokes on my wheel, time is precious, so when I can read a few sentences and be transported into a whole new experience, I’m grateful.
Of course these are only a few spokes on the wheel of my life. Now it’s your turn. What do you value paying attention to in your life, and how do you keep your life rolling forward?
May your ride be a beautiful adventure,